Francesca Dattilo, MSW
Certified Law of Attraction Coach
Certified Style Coach (MIASC Accred.)

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  • By Francesca Dattilo
  • 17 May, 2017

If you have read any of my newsletters or social media posts, you know that I am big on self-love.  I talk about it a lot in regards to creating Soul Love.  In particular, how every good relationship starts with you and that you cannot accept and embrace what you cannot give to yourself.  If you cannot love and accept yourself, you will not be open to receiving love and acceptance from others. 

Whatever it is that you want to manifest in your life; your ideal partner, the dream job or dream home requires the power of self-love.  It requires the power of the Law of Allowing or the principle of least action and no resistance .  

When you are in the space of allowing, you are giving yourself permission to be who you truly are.   You are speaking your mind and choosing your own path, regardless of what others tell you.   When you appreciate and love yourself, you are connected to your divine self which is infinite love and appreciation.   Allowing is about accepting without trying to fix, control or change anything.  

Self-love can not exist without self-acceptance.   Robert Holden, the author of “Be Happy”, tells us that self-acceptance is the experience of seeing ourselves as we really are:

  • without any criticism
  • without any demands that we should be something more, better or different
  • without judgment.

There are many ways we deprive ourselves from self-love, for example:

Self-criticism; the constant nagging voice in our head telling us we are not good enough

Self-neglect; we try to make everyone happy except ourselves

Self-exhaustion; we overcommit, over schedule or we forget to stop (that’s me!)

Self invalidation; we look to others for our sense of self, our value, our truth

A lack of self-acceptance makes life harder.  Everything can seem like a struggle.  And then we think everyone and everything, including the Universe is against us.  Albert Einstein stated that “The most important decision we make is wether we believe in a friendly or hostile Universe”.

When we judge ourselves we are not in alignment with who we truly are.  When you feel inadequate you are actually disconnected from the unconditional love of your divine spirit.  Finding ways to connect to our spirit, our true selves or the essence of who we are is the key to the Law of Pure Potentiality.  The Law of Pure Potentiality states that the universe has no limits and as such anything is possible .  One of the reasons the Law of Attraction does not work for us is because we are disconnected and out of alignment from our true selves.

Many people have a misconception that if they accept themselves as they are, they will become complacent and not make any changes for the better.  Or, they think that if they accept themselves then they will be “full of themselves”, not grow, or cause harm to themselves or others.  

Nothing could be further from the truth.   When you are willing to accept yourself, you are more likely to grow and make changes for the better.   You will treat yourself and others more kindly and the universe will treat you accordingly.  

As you increase your self-love, you let yourself accept more happiness, love, peace and abundance.   You will attract to yourself that which you identify with.   You will attract experiences that are compatible with how you feel about yourself.   As I often say to my clients, “You can grow in joy and self-love, rather than pain!”.

I am excited to announce that I will be part of an inspiring event called #EmbraceYou: Movie Screening+Panel Discussion.  This event is meant to help women love themselves more, stop the shame cycle about our bodies and stop the comparison mindset.  I am also an expert on the panel.  To find out more and purchase a ticket follow this link!
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